What is Gossiping?
Many Christians have a habit of gossiping about others and then forgetting about it. Gossip is having conversation about information that is not yet confirmed as true about a person. Gossiping is talking bad about someone behind their backs.In Proverbs 6:16-19, Â These six thingsÂ the Lord hate: seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, an heart that devise wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, a false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.
Gossiping is Idle Talk?
Gossiping is one way to waste your time. Instead of wasting your time on gossiping, you should use it to do something that improves your relationship with God. In Ephesians 4:29, let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. God gives us a mouth, not to gossip, but to praise him and give glory to him. Gossiping will put a stumbling block in the way of a new believer and caused him to fall down. We must always keep our mouth, mind and heart pure. In Titus 1:15, unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled.
What the Bible Says about Gossiping?
In James 1:26, gossiping about others shows that you don’t have a good testimony of Christ in you. Whatever we say should should be to edify others (Ephesians 4:29). In whatever we do or say, we must set an example for others so that people can see that we are a disciple of Christ. If another Christian sees that you are gossiping others, he may follow your example and do the same because he thought it is all right to gossip about others.
If someone heard the bad things you say to others, he may feel hurt and hold grudge against you (Proverbs 18:8). This can cause the person to have hatred towards you and treat you like an enemy. Following Jesus is about loving God and loving others as much as you love yourself (Matthew 22:37-40; Luke 6:31). If you love others, you will avoid talking bad about others so that quarreling, strife and other problems can be avoided (Titus 3:2; Proverbs 26:20). God said he will destroy those who gossip and slanders about others secretly (Psalm 101:5). Therefore, we should keep ourselves from being busy body and gossiping about others (Psalm 34:13; Leviticus 19:16; 1 Timothy 5:13).
When you gossip, you are not telling the truth because the report isn’t yet confirmed (Exodus 20:16; Exodus 23:1; Proverbs 6:16-19). It also causes people to lose confidence in you as a secret keeper (Proverbs 11:13). If you want someone to trust you, you must be trustworthy in keeping to yourself what others confide to you.
Proverbs 20:19 states that gossip betrays a man’s confidence. Sometimes, you can accidentally tell a secret that you are not suppose to say when gossiping with another person. Proverbs 25:9 states that we should not betray someone else’s confidence when arguing with a person. You may forget to keep your secret and blurt it out during the conversation. This will betray the confidence that someone has in you as a secret keeper. Therefore, we should avoid talking too much with someone.
In James 4:11, gossiping makes you a judge. Only God is the judge (James 4:12; Isaiah 33:22). Jesus Christ is the judge that will judge us on the judgment day (2 Timothy 4:1). If you judge, you are not keeping God’s commandments. Jesus said that those who judge others will be judged (Matthew 7:1).
When you gossip about someone, you will habitually speak curses against the person. James 3:6 states that the tongue is a fire and can set a person’s life on fire. If you curse someone with your tongue, the person will be cursed. Therefore, we must control what you say so that other people won’t receive curses because of what you say.
If you have sinned by gossiping, you should confess to Jesus Christ how you gossip about others and ask him to forgive you. If your gossiping hurt someone, you should go to the person and apologize to them. After you have confessed your sin about gossiping, you should stop gossiping.