What is Self Control?
Having self control means crucifying your flesh to the cross and putting Jesus first in your life. Self control is one of the 9 fruits of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22). If you don’t have self control, you will want to sin to gratify your flesh. For example, if you drink too much alcohol, you will get drunk. Drinking alcohol is not a sin but getting drunk is a sin (Ephesians 5:18; Galatians 5:21).
When you lack self control, it means that you have not totally surrender yourself to God. If you have totally surrender yourself to God, you would not put the gratification of your flesh first but put God first. In Romans 13:14, we must clothe ourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ and not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.
The lack of self control is a weakness. When Satan know which area you lack self control, he can use it to lead you to sin so that he can lead you away from God. We must be self control and alert all the time. Satan roams around the earth, looking for a weak victim to devour (1 Peter 5:8). He is always trying to get as much souls as possible into hell. Therefore, we should resist the devil by submitting to God (James 4:7) so that we won’t leave a foothold for him to attack us (Ephesians 4:27).
The Lust of Flesh is of the Devil
The world is under the dominion of Satan. Therefore, everything of this world is from Satan. Satan used various worldly practices to lead Christians away from God. There are many things in this world that Satan can use to lead us away from God such as secular music, tattoo, drugs, alcohols and etc. We may think that it is okay to adopt some of the worldly practices but they actually open doorway for the devil to come into out lives.
For example, nowadays, many churches are using secular music by secular artists and loud rock Christian music to worship God. Anything that imitate after the world is not of God. Using secular music to worship God remove God’s presence. God wants us to sing hymns, psalms and spiritual songs to him. In 1 John 2:16, everything in the world including the cravings, lust of the eyes, boasting of what he has and does are not from the Father God but from the world.
New Creation in Christ
Once you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord, you are now a new creation in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17). A new creation in Christ means the old you don’t live anymore but the new you, the you that will live your life for Jesus Christ now lives. The Holy Spirit can help us to live our lives for God. He can change us slowly until we become more and more like the image of Jesus Christ.
In Ephesians 2:3-4, we used to live according to the way of the world, gratifying the sinful flesh desire once but we have been saved by grace because of God’s great love for us. God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions. In Romans 5:10, when we were God’s enemies, we become reconciled to him through the death of his son, Jesus Christ so that we can be saved through his life and live forever in the kingdom of God. In Romans 5:9, by the blood of Jesus Christ, we have been justified in our sins and saved from God’s wrath.
We are the generations of Adam and Eve. Because Adam and Eve sin, the seed of sin has been passed down to us and we are sinners since birth. We are sinners since birth no matter if we have done a wrong things in this lifetime or not. It is the sin that cause you to want to gratify your sinful nature. In Romans 7:14-20, Paul says he always do what he don’t want to do. If you do what you do not want to do, you are agreeing that the law is good. It is not you who do it but sin who lives in you.
How to Have Self Control?
In Romans 7:21-25, the law of sin is always opposing the law of God. If you submit to God, the law of God will fight against the law of sin. Through Jesus Christ, we can overcome all kinds of temptations. It is your choice to surrender your life completely to God or not. If you don’t surrender your life completely to God, you will be taken over by your sinful desires (Romans 1:24).
In 1 Corinthians 10:13, no temptation has seize men, except what is common to men. God is faithful and he will never let you be tempted more than you can bear. God will always provide a way out so that you are able to bear it. If you need help in overcoming a temptation, you can ask the Holy Spirit to help you. You can tell the Holy Spirit about where you lack self control and ask him to give you strength to overcome it. We can do all things through Christ who gives us strength (Philippians 4:13). Not by might nor by power, but by the Spirit of God, we can accomplish all things (Zechariah 4:6).