Sermon Outline On Matthew 10:34-39
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up the cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Those who find their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it.
In today’s scripture lesson, Jesus speaks about family conflict. Jesus speaks of division within family. Did you hear what Jesus said?
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one’s foe will be members of one’s own household.” Matthew 10:34-36
“DO NOT THINK THAT I HAVE COME TO BRING PEACE TO THE EARTH.” Did you hear that! Did you hear that! Son against father. Daughter against mother. Daughter-in-law against Mother-in-law.
JESUS IS WRONG! What on earth was Jesus thinking? Father against son & son against father. Jesus is going against everything in scripture. Jesus in his ministry has continually upheld Hebrew Scripture. That scripture we Christians have called the Old Testament.
And now he speaks of son against father. How can he possibly be saying that he has come to cause conflict among families? Jesus knew Hebrew Scripture! He knew what the Law said! He knew these verses.
“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12
JESUS WAS WRONG! HE CAME TO BRING PEACE.
“Anyone who attacks his father or his mother must be put to death.” Exodus 21:15
JESUS WAS WRONG! HE DID NOT COME TO SET A MAN AGAINST HIS FATHER.
“‘Each of you must respect his mother and father, and you must observe my Sabbath. I am the LORD your God.'” Lev. 19:3
JESUS WAS WRONG! HE DID NOT COME TO SET A DAUGHTER AGAINST HER MOTHER.
“‘If anyone curses his father or mother, he must be put to death…'” Lev 20:9
JESUS WAS WRONG! HE DID NOT COME TO SET A DAUGHTER-IN-LAW AGAINST HER MOTHER-IN-LAW
“A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish man despises his mother. Prov 15:20
JESUS WAS WRONG! HE DID NOT COME TO MAKE FOES OF MEMBERS OF HOUSEHOLDS.
“He who robs his father and drives out his mother is a son who brings shame and disgrace.” Prov 19:26
JESUS WAS WRONG!
“Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.” Prov. 23:22
JESUS WAS WRONG! HE WAS WRONG, WASN’T HE?
Jesus even commanded us to follow these laws
Story of the Rich Young Ruler Matthew 19:17-20
Then someone came to him and said, “Teacher, what good deed must I do to have eternal life?”
If you wish to enter into life, keep the commandments.”
He said to him, “Which ones?”
And Jesus said, “You shall not murder; You shall not commit adultery;
You shall not steal; You shall not bear false witness; Honor your father and mother; also, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”
Remember in Cana of Galilee, at the wedding, Jesus honored his mother by fulfilling her request.
JESUS WAS WRONG! EXCEPT FOR ONE THING… JESUS WAS RIGHT. JESUS WAS RIGHT. OF COURSE JESUS WAS RIGHT. YOU KNOW JESUS WAS RIGHT.
In this passage Jesus said, “I have not come to bring peace.” Yet it is recorded in John’s gospel, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world give. Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid.” John 14:27
John also records these words of Jesus, “I have said this to you, so that in me you may have peace.” John 16:33
How can Jesus in one minute say, “I have come to bring peace” and the next minute say, “I have not come to bring peace?”
Fred Craddock tells us that Matthew is really talking about what sometimes resulted from Jesus’ ministry. Jesus’ purpose was not to divide families, yet the result of Jesus ministry was sometimes division in families. Matthew writes out of his Semitic tradition that viewed results as the purpose.(1) It is a fact that following Jesus had resulted in splits in families today. So Matthew writes as if it were the purpose of Jesus. The first readers of Matthew understood he was stating results not purpose.
Today there are splits in families caused by following Jesus. Jesus is saying that following him is not easy. This passage as presented by Matthew is Jesus teaching his disciples before they begin their ministry with Jesus. Jesus is telling them that in following him, they may have to make some tough choices. They may have to choose between Jesus and family. Jesus makes it clear what the choice must be.
The Bible says the kingdom of God is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he finds a pearl of real worth, he sells everything he has and buys that pearl. We can understand that Jesus is the pearl of great price and we are the merchant. So when we find Jesus, it costs us everything. Jesus offers happiness, joy, peace, healing, security, eternity.
We marvel at such a pearl and say,
“We want this pearl.
How much does it cost?”
The seller says, “It’s too dear, too costly.”
“But how much?”
“Well, it’s very expensive.”
“Do you think I could buy it?”
“Oh, of course. Anybody can.”
“But you say it’s too expensive.
How much is it?”
“It costs everything you have — no more, no less — so anybody can buy it.”
“I’ll buy it”
“What do you have? Let’s write it down.”
“I have $10,000 in the bank.”
“Good, $10,000. What else?”
“I have nothing more. That’s all I have.”
“Have you nothing more?”
“Well, I have some dollars
here in my pocket.”
“I’ll see: 30,40,50,80,100,120 — 120 $.”
“That’s fine. What else do you have?”
“I have nothing else. That’s all.”
“Where do you live?”
“I live in my house.”
“The house too.”
“Then you mean I must live in the garage?”
“Have you a garage, too? That too. What else?”
“Do you mean that I must live in my car?”
“Have you a car?”
“I have two.”
“Both become mine. Both cars. What else?”
“I have nothing else.”
“Are you alone in the world?”
“No, I have a wife, two children…. ”
“Your wife and your children too. What else?”
“I have nothing else, I am left alone now.”
“Oh, you too. Everything. Everything becomes mine: wife, children, house, garage, cars, money, clothing, everything. And you too. Now you can use all those things here but don’t forget they are mine, as you are.
When I need any of the things you are using you must give them to me because now I am the owner.”(2)
Jesus came to bring peace, but more than that, Jesus came to bring relationship-a relationship that calls us to give Jesus our all-a saving relationship in which we give Jesus our very life.
1. Craddock,Fred; Hayes, John; Holladay, Carl; Tucker, Gene; Preaching Through the Christian Year A,Trinity Press International,p337.
2. Carlos, Juan; The Call to Discipleship, p42-43.